10 Years – 10 Life Lessons

10 life lessons in 10 years… And realising that what I was already certain I believed, I am now absolutely convinced is true.

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1. You don’t have to try to be like someone else (however well-liked or popular they may be) in order for other people to like you.

2. You’re not being cruel, inconsiderate, unreasonable or ‘picky’ by not wanting to go out with someone who doesn’t entirely correspond to what you’re looking for in a partner.

3. The interests, preferences and qualities you have – especially those which set you apart from others – are there to be celebrated, cherished and honed.

4. You need neither the approval nor the advice of people you don’t admire, don’t want to follow, and whose lifestyle doesn’t make you dream

5. EVERYTHING happens in the right way, the only way it’s supposed to, whether you like it at first or not.

6. Though technology can help facilitate any number of tasks in daily life, it isn’t there to replace fundamental needs. We always need real-life contact with people (particularly those present), to think for ourselves and even just to ‘be‘ – without being occupied or entertained.

7. If it feels right for you, do it – it’ll either be a great experience and great memories and/or something you learn from. If it doesn’t feel right to you, or you have to be pressured into doing it, then don’t!! Better let it be someone else’s mistake rather than your own regret…

8. You can make a living from doing what you love, and get rich by doing it, and feel good about it all.

9. Appearance is so far from being your most important asset or quality. Valuing beauty doesn’t make you superficial, but always putting it first wouldn’t be doing justice to your real qualities – the ones you can work on which allow you to keep improving as a person.

10. Working hard or working long hours aren’t synonymous with working well, or delivering your best quality service to others. Add value to others’ lives by what you do for them, not the number of hours you spend breaking your back, forgetting to enjoy your own life in the process, no less criticising yourself in the end for ‘still not doing enough’.

You are already doing more than enough (which is to say that you are doing exceptionally or outstandingly well – and why aim for anything else?) by dedicating yourself to delivering a high-quality service, and feeding your own passion in doing so. Life lessons will tell you that you are a credit to yourself as well as to all those who are lucky enough to be influenced by you!

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Motivation

7 advantages of finding that someone can do what you want to do better than you can

… and how that will help you get better at what you want to get better at doing!!

1 Coming across a person or the result of a person’s work which merits your recognition is a sign that your idea to come up with the same thing was a good one: you’re just not the only one who had that idea! Take it as confirmation that what you will pursue is worthy of your efforts, and rest assured having deduced that others (namely, your audience) will also agree that it was a good idea – pick up your pen, and get to work!


2 Seeing another person carrying out a similar idea to yours can provide you with a free and easy ‘sneak-peek’ at what might have happened if you had gone ahead before you actually do so: their product being the draft, your product will be the final version! What would you change about what they have done? Crucially, how could you make sure your version will be even better than theirs? Take notes – and mentally thank them for the opportunity for this extra insight!!


3 You can choose to feel demotivated or encouraged by seeing someone, possibly someone close to you, achieve what you yourself would also have liked to achieve; you can choose. Know that by sharing in the joy of their success, and fuelling their ambitions as well as your own, you will only bring yourself closer to fulfilling your own endeavours! This is because choosing to ignore or shut out feelings of joy for them will only stop those feelings from coming back round to you, whereas by embracing the feelings of celebration associated with success, albeit for someone else, you are saying ‘Yes!!’ to those emotions, and opening yourself up to them. Don’t block out or deny yourself feelings you want to feel – just as importantly, it is helpful to remember to recognise when someone is fully deserving of their success (as you also will be when you have yours), and to offer the same boost you hope to enjoy when your time comes! « Si vous vous sentez vraiment bien à l’égard du succès, peu importe à qui il appartient, vous attirerez le succès à vous ! » (Byrne 2010 : 174).

4 Very often, it is necessary for the same or similar products to be adapted or even redesigned in order to suit a wide audience; how else could we explain the existence of so many innumerable, thriving brands selling the same or similar products? It’s not because you witness someone else’s success with a product the same or similar to the one you wish to promote that you can’t also have the same or yet greater success with your product (be it more or less exactly the same or just similar); the audience they are catering to is almost certainly different to your ideal audience. There is a reason you stand out, so discover your niche, dare to embrace exactly what makes you unique and find the solution to exactly what you can offer your clients that absolutely no-one else could! “The thing to remember is this: someone else’s success does not hinder your chances of achieving what you want.” (Kempton 2018: 152).


5 Admiring a great person is, in itself, a great reflection on you. It isn’t synonymous with admitting you’re less adept than another person, nor is it accepting that you’ve given in to the competition – on the contrary: you can’t lead the way until you’ve been the way, which is why having admiration for someone else can give you the same gratification as having a great personal mentor or role model. For that matter, think of it as having a whole host of mentors, since there is no limit as to how many great examples you may choose to follow, and whose influence you would like to grace your work!! Consider it a product of your clever judgement, and pride yourself on the fact that theirs is the example you have chosen to follow. With a plethora of possible role models available, your personal choice in whom to lend your attention is what will help contribute to your eventual and inevitable triumph!

6 Did your ambition arise out of the inspiration you felt by witnessing someone achieve or dare something brilliant, by any chance…? A person in the figure of a teacher, an athlete or an artist, perhaps? The greatest leaders are those who never deem themselves as having reached the stage where they are no longer students: if, like them, you are constantly in a state of mind where you consider you always have something else to learn, or more progress to make, you are leaving the way open to limitless improvements over the course of your entire career! Your journey constitutes an endless stream of developments in the name of finding excellence: instead of seeing that as something negative, embrace it and realise it means you only ever keep getting better! (2018)


7 When you realise that your choice of reaction towards someone seemingly more skilled or talented than yourself isn’t restricted to an attitude of defeat, disappointment or inadequacy, you will find yourself opening up to all of the above principles. Whereas your instinct may otherwise have been to respond with feelings of inferiority, or to allow yourself to feel intimidated in the presence of this person (or these people), as soon as you learn to adopt this alternative mentality, and the fact that you are free to embrace this different outlook, you can willingly accept that there is only positivity to be found in their existence, their success and their impact on you. Be honest with yourself: there is no limit to your learning, nor will there ever be; there will always be new things for you to learn, and you will always be in a position where you can acquire and develop new skills! When you want to succeed, this is the greatest thing you can be grateful for!!

Le Secret ; Le Pouvoir {both by Rhonda Byrne; translated from the English by Jocelyne Roy}

Wabi Sabi {by Beth Kempton}

“Language”: An Introduction

My main aim in establishing this website is as much to help you learn your foreign language as to help you help yourself learn independently!!

The sooner you take your learning into your own hands, whether you are already on a language course or studying alone, with or without a tutor or teacher, and the more independent you become, the more certain you can be of your absolute success acquiring a foreign language!!

« On ne doit pas juger du mérite d’un homme par ses grandes qualités, mais par l’usage qu’il en sait faire. »

— Jean De La Bruyère

This means…

more effective learning methods,

more efficient study time, and

・a more motivating and rewarding overall experience!

If you are passionate about foreign languages, I hope you are inspired to embark on the next steps of your journey with me!

Hannah Johnston
Away With Words⎪Language Tuition